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Which Lube Should You Choose?

Which Lube Should You Choose?

If you're using lube in your sexual encounters you're already a step ahead of the game. That being said, when things get hot and heavy it's sometimes tricky to know which lube to choose. Before we go too far, let us just say that you don't have to have just one lube in your arsenal - in fact, we recommend keeping both a silicone lube and a water-based lube on hand so you can use the one that will work best for your activity of choice.  

Below, we break down a few common scenarios when you'll want to use lube, and match the right lube to those situations. While using lube is almost always better than not using lube, silicone and water-based lubes each have their strengths and it's a good idea to keep them in mind when reaching for a bottle.


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Water-based Lube

Penchant Pleasure water-based lube

1. For a Quickie

The truth of the matter is you can use any lube you have for a quickie, but if you have a choice, water-based lubes are hands-down the way to go. The reason? Chances are, if you're opting for a quickie, you'll want a lube that comes with quick, easy cleanup. Water-based lubes like Penchant Pleasure break down in water a bit more easily than silicone, meaning a wash with soap and water gets you back to your day in a hurry. You can even use baby wipes to clean up in a pinch.

2. With Toys

The kind of lube you want to use with your adult toys depends on the material of the toys themselves. As a general rule, avoid using silicone lube with silicone toys, since the lube can degrade the material on the toy. While you can certainly use silicone with glass or metal toys, the safest bet is to stick with water-based lube any time you reach into your toy box. That way, no matter what you pull out to play with, you'll have a toy-compatible lube. 

3. For Anal Play

When it comes to anal sex, lube is an absolute requirement since the back door doesn't lubricate itself. Water-based lubes tend to have a thicker consistency than many silicone lubes, meaning it's great to use in circumstances where having a little more cushion is ideal. No matter if you opt for water-based or silicone lube, when it comes to anal be sure to use plenty of lube and reapply as often as needed. For more anal tips, see our 8 Commandments of Anal Sex post.

Silicone Lube

Penchant Premium silicone lube

1. For Marathon Sessions

One of the best things about silicone lube is how long-lasting it is. Penchant Premium, our silicone personal lubricant, doesn't dry out or get sticky, meaning you can concentrate on enjoying yourself rather than on reapplying lube. This makes it perfect for long, unhurried sessions.

2. For Water Play

Want to get adventurous in the pool, hot tub, or shower? Since water can strip away a woman's natural lubricant, you'll want to add in your favorite lube to make a comfortable, enjoyable experience for you both. Silicone lube is an all-star in these situations, holding up and providing lubrication when you need it most. It won't wash away in water (unlike a water-based lube), so you can use it with confidence. As a note of caution, this lube makes things super slippery, so avoid spilling it on the shower floor. Going down on your partner = sexy. Falling down because of your lube = not so much.

3. For a Sensual Massage

At Penchant we love a good multi-tasking product which is why we reach for silicone lube when it comes time for a sensual massage. Silicone lubricant can act like a massage oil, gliding easily and leaving skin soft and touchable. And if your massage moves into more erogenous territory, it's an easy transition to use the lube in a more traditional way. Read our tips for how to make your next massage the best one yet and grab your favorite bottle.


When it comes down to it, safe sex is the best sex, and the good news is you don't have to compromise when it comes to your lube. Both silicone and water-based lubes are condom-compatible, so you can rest assured your lube won't degrade the material of your condom. Even better, the simple act of using lube is a safe-sex measure, helping reduce the risk of tears caused by too much friction.


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