Let’s face it - sometimes our hormones get us, well, horny, at a time or place where a slow seduction just isn’t possible.  Sometimes, dammit, we still want to act on those urges.  Enter the quickie: a fast way to have your cake and eat it, too.  The concept is simple - have a speedy, no-frills sexual encounter that leaves you and your partner satisfied.  In a bite-sized session you can all the benefits of sex, from a boosted mood to improved concentration.  Heck, sex is even a cure for headaches!

The thing is, a quickie is one of those encounters that could go either way - worth the time or so, so wrong.  There’s nothing more disappointing than when a sex act fails to live up to the hype, and if it’s uncomfortable or even flat-out painful, a quickie can earn a big thumbs down.  Here’s where lube steps in.  It’s your new ally in the quest for orgasmic sex and using it is just one of my favorite tricks for getting the most out of your sex session.  Read on for more tips, from mind games to surefire sex positions, and learn how to have a quickie that’s worth a repeat performance.

Get your head in the game.  

By nature quickies are, well, quick, so a little anticipation goes a long way in getting you both revved up and ready to dive in.  Beforehand, tell your partner exactly what you’d like to do to them, and watch them get excited.  A sexy text message or a little dirty talk can get all attention focused where it counts.  On the flip side, if you’re the receiver of your partner’s advances, do your best to concentrate on the moment at hand.  Push any lingering thoughts to the side for just a few minutes so you can enjoy yourself.  We promise, those thoughts and to-do’s will still be there after sex, only now it will be so much easier to tackle them.

Embrace the time constraints.  

There’s something deliciously lustful in both of you pounding down the path to orgasm.  While a marathon session can be great, the quickie is all about getting hot fast.  Touch each other like you mean it, and if there’s no time to ditch all your clothes, who cares.  Knowing someone is so hot for you that they can’t even wait to get naked is pretty darn sexy.

Be bold.  

A quickie is not the time to be shy, so don’t worry about awkward noises or moves.  Take a no holds-barred approach to your lovemaking and get into it.  Enthusiasm is appreciated.  Also, take things to the next level by adding in a little oral sex.  Foreplay is often overlooked in a quickie, but it can be the key to a more pleasurable experience for both of you.

Use lube.  

While a few minutes of time might be enough for some people to get off, it can often take women a little longer to get fully aroused.  Using lube is a quick detour that replicates natural lubrication and helps make a smoother ride for both of you.  It also enhances the sensations of sex and leads to easier orgasms.  I recommend using a water-based lube for a quickie, as it’s typically easier to clean up than silicone lube.  When you’re finished, you can get back to your day.

Communicate.  

Be vocal about what you want and about what’s getting you turned on, and encourage your partner to do the same.  Then pay attention!  If something’s working for your partner, don’t stop what you’re doing.  Just ride that train all the way to the station.

Call in reinforcements.  

In a perfect world, we’d all be able to make our partners come through penetration alone, but the simple fact is sometimes we need a little more stimulation.  Try positions like girl on top or doggy style, which allow for both deep penetration and clitoral stimulation.  Use your fingers, your tongue, whatever’s working.  At the end of the day, if you don’t both come, it’s totally ok.  But if an orgasm is the name of the game for both of you, bringing in a vibrator can help seal the deal.